self-care

In Which I Make Myself Clear

A page filled with multicolored block letters reading, "My first priority is me and my mother. 2nd is family: both the born and the found.  Friends are next, then anyone else who needs me."

Journal page, Pitt pen and watercolor.

I live with my mom (anyone who thinks that reflects badly on her or on me is cordially invited to bite me) and lately she’s been feeling really bad both physically and emotionally — lots of obligations that are hard to meet, lots of interpersonal stuff that’s hard to handle.   And when she feels bad, I feel bad, because I love her.

So yesterday while she was out and I was noodling around doing laundry, I decided to make this page as a reminder to myself as well as my mom.  I care about my friends, but my family comes first (including my sisters-by-choice), and before everything else I have to take care of MYSELF.  You know the story about putting on your own oxygen mask first, right?  And part of my well-being is making sure of Mom’s well-being, just like part of hers is making sure of mine.

It didn’t occur to me until this morning that it makes a fitting Mother’s Day page, but I think it does.

That said, I know there are people out there who find today really hard because of bad relationships with their own mothers.  For those folks, I hope you do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself today — maybe make your own journal page about your priorities, with yourself at the top! — and I offer this video and an e-hug.

[you can read the lyrics here]